Relationship anxiety is complex and can have an immense impact on how partners interact with one another. It’s often experienced as a result of past relationship experiences, or even evolved from a deep-rooted fear of abandonment that stems from one’s childhood. It can leave individuals feeling overwhelmed, insecure, and extremely anxious, and can quickly erode trust in the relationship.
8 WAYS TO REDUCE RELATIONSHIP ANXIETY
? OPEN COMMUNICATION:
Learning how to effectively communicate with your partner can go a long way towards building trust and understanding. Second, It’s important to understand your partner’s internal state and turn towards them in an empathic way. This sends the message that you see them, they are important to you.
? SET CLEAR BOUNDARIES:
Understanding what is expected of each partner and respecting those boundaries can help reduce tension in the relationship. And, of course, practicing self-care is paramount. Taking time to do things that make you feel relaxed and recharged can help reduce tension in the relationship by allowing both partners to take a step back and recharge.
? PRACTICE PATIENCE:
It’s important to remember that it takes time to heal a relationship affected by anxiety so patience and understanding are key.
? BE HONEST ABOUT YOUR NEEDS:
It’s important to be honest with yourself and partners about what you need in order to feel comfortable on dates and in relationships. By being clear about your boundaries, needs, and expectations, you can ensure that your dates are more successful and enjoyable for both of you.
? DON’T ABANDON YOURSELF:
? PRACTICE INTROSPECTION:
? BE KIND TO YOURSELF:
? CREATE SAFETY WITHIN YOURSELF:
Finding a feeling of safety is essential for overall well being. In a safe and secure environment, our bodies can relax and we can reap the benefits of reduced inflammation, stress resilience, emotional regulation, increased capacity for friendships/connection, improved immune response and compassion. A simple way to rebalance your nervous system is crafting a story.
? Begin by finding a comfortable place where you can take a few minutes for yourself. Take some deep breaths and allow your body to relax. Then begin to listen within. You may find stories of safety from your past, such as places you’ve been that were peaceful and safe, or create a story in your imagination.
? Visualize the environment and take note of body sensations, feelings and behaviors associated with it. For example, maybe your story is about being at the beach watching the sunset with your pet, or quietly sitting by a fireplace in a snow cabin. Feelings of safety and relaxation should accompany this story.